Retirement can be both liberating and daunting. While newfound freedom from work is often celebrated, the lack of daily structure and social connection can lead to isolation. Recognizing this challenge, a group of retirees in St. Louis created Friends Enjoying Life (FEL)—a community where men can foster friendships, stay active and find renewed purpose.
An inspired vision
The idea for FEL began with Harvey Gerstein, a St. Louis native who spends winters in Phoenix. There, he encountered Gentlemen Enjoying Leisure (GEL), a thriving men’s group.
“When I saw what GEL had created, I knew we needed something like that back home,” Gerstein said. His vision was to offer opportunities for men to connect, learn and enjoy life together.
Back in St. Louis, Gerstein reached out to his friend and neighbor, John Reichman, who had also been seeking ways to stay engaged in retirement.
“Harvey’s idea of a men’s organization was exactly what I was looking for,” Reichman said. “FEL has allowed me to renew old acquaintances and meet new friends. It’s given me the opportunity to attend monthly breakfasts and help create programs that guys like me would find entertaining and interesting.”
FEL’s first meeting took place in early September 2019, drawing an enthusiastic crowd eager to embrace this new opportunity for connection and activity.
The role of Ed Cristal and FEL’s legacy
Ed Cristal, FEL’s first president, played a pivotal role in establishing the group’s foundation and guiding its early growth.
“There really is no age restriction, though FEL caters to retirees,” said Cristal, in an interviw with the Jewish Light in 2019 after the group launched. “I expect we’ll have some young ‘kids’ around 65 but most will be in their seventies, eighties and on up. You don’t need to be Jewish to join but quite frankly, I expect most will be just because of the contacts we have.”
To honor his contributions, FEL created an annual award in Cristal’s name, recognizing the volunteer of the year. This award celebrates the dedication of members who go above and beyond in serving the FEL community, ensuring the group’s mission continues to thrive.
More than just social gatherings
FEL offers more than simple get-togethers. With over 100 members within three months, the group has become a vibrant community. Activities range from breakfasts and lunches to field trips to Busch Stadium and the Missouri History Museum. Members participate in discussion groups, technology classes and volunteer work, such as AARP-certified tax assistance for older adults at the Mirowitz Center.
Daniel Landsbaum, technology and activity coordinator at Covenant Place’s Mirowitz Center, plays a crucial role in supporting FEL. He assists with event logistics, communications and onboarding new members.
“FEL is about bringing men together to foster new and enrich old friendships,” Landsbaum said. “There is significant data showing that isolation has debilitating effects on physical and mental wellness. By providing opportunities for socialization, camaraderie and recreation, FEL is making a meaningful impact.”
The importance of male camaraderie
For many men, the workplace was a natural environment for forming bonds. Without it, creating and maintaining connections can be challenging.
“Men don’t often call each other for lunch,” Gerstein said. “We need structure and a reason to come together.”
Mark Koritz, an FEL member and chair, highlighted the group’s impact and challenges. “Chairing the group has been interesting,” Koritz said. “It’s rewarding to see people getting out of the house, making connections and participating in activities they enjoy. But it’s always a challenge to keep things fresh and encourage more men to join.”
Reichman emphasized FEL’s open-door policy. “Our members know we always welcome guests, including significant friends,” he said. “Just come and experience FEL for yourself.”
Supporting future growth
The Mirowitz Center’s collaboration with FEL has been key to the group’s success. As Landsbaum noted, the Center provides space and support for FEL’s activities. This partnership has inspired other initiatives, such as Gals on the Go, a women’s group formed based on FEL’s model.
With 10,000 baby boomers turning 65 daily in the U.S., the need for groups like FEL will continue to grow. The Mirowitz Center is committed to supporting this expansion and meeting the interests of new and current members.
“We want to ensure that men who have time and interest in being active have a welcoming community to join,” Landsbaum said.
FEL continues to inspire, motivate and connect retired men, standing as a testament to the power of community and the importance of enjoying life’s later years together.
For more information or to join FEL, contact John Reichman at [email protected] or Daniel Landsbaum at (314) 432-1610 ext. 1710.
